Become ‘one-derful’ together
By James and Natasha King
One evening about five or six years ago, we were settling in for the night when we heard our then 7-year-old son softly singing, “I see trees of green…”
We looked at each other trying to figure out where he had even heard the song. Beyond our curiosity, we just sat there and listened. He only knew a few lines, but somehow he was completely immersed in it, swept away by the beauty and feeling of what he was singing.
If you’ve never really slowed down to listen to Louis Armstrong’s “What a Wonderful World”, go read the lyrics sometime. It’s simple, but deeply profound. Green trees. Blue skies. Friends shaking hands. Babies crying. So many things that naturally belong together. Things we recognize as part of life, part of connection, part of the beauty of sharing this world with one another.
The melody almost makes the world feel untouched for a moment – peaceful, whole, aligned.
Marriage can feel a lot like that. Not because it is perfect, but because it reveals what’s truly there. Marriage has a way of presenting itself just as you see it. The beauty, the tension, the growth, the gaps, the grace, it all rises to the surface over time.
Somewhere in the middle of all of that, two people are learning how to become one.
Marriage is more than two people living under one roof. It’s two lives learning how to move together purposefully. Becoming “one-derful” together means learning that unity matters more than ego, communication matters more than assumptions, and partnership becomes the foundation you build from.
Oneness requires learning how to grow together while still honoring each other’s strengths, dreams, personality, and God-given purpose. It’s two whole people coming together to work towards a shared goal. The healthiest marriages understand something important: this is a collaboration.
You win together. You heal together. You build together. There will be seasons that stretch you. Moments that test your patience, expose weak communication, or challenge your commitment to one another. However, those moments do not have to divide you. Often, they become the very things that deepen your understanding, maturity, and connection if you let them.
Becoming one requires intentionality in communication, mutual respect, grace during hard seasons, and the willingness to continue choosing each other daily – even when life feels heavy or unfamiliar. A “one-derful” marriage begins to take shape when two people stop fighting for control and self-preservation, and start fighting for the health of the relationship itself.
Unity is not built overnight. It’s built in the ordinary moments – through consistency, sacrifice, shared vision, honest conversations, forgiveness, laughter, prayer, and growth. The ONEderful life is built one day at a time; so continue learning each other by making room for one another, and continue supporting each other through every evolving season of life.
Continue becoming one beautifully, intentionally, and with grace.
